You Are My Destiny… or Not?
“An invisible thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place and circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle, but it will never break” – ancient Chinese proverb
According to Chinese legend, those who are destined to be together are connected by an invisible red thread – the red thread of fate. In this story, an invisible red cord is tied around the ankles of those who are destined to have a major story together, somewhere, somehow, some day.
Fate is considered important too in other cultures. In Greek mythology, for example, moirai were considered incarnations of destiny and the idea was that your destiny was already written for you.
We’re debating a centuries-old question on the topic of love and destiny, and I’m curious to know what YOU think!
Do you believe it’s destiny that connects you to a loved one? Do “soulmates” exist?
Is something “meant to be”, or not?
Is it the actions you take, sheer luck, or even a combo?
So many songs, poems and epics have been written on this question; each person, of course, has a different answer!
What do you believe? How is love perceived in your culture? Join the debate below. And feel free to share this article with someone who is holding the other end of your ‘red thread’. 🙂
Dear Vivian,
You have raised some interesting questions in the article and I would like to give my view on a few of them.
I do believe I was connected to my parter by destiny. I think it was a combination of the actions we took and luck that got us together. We met the weirdest way through a randomized online chat, so I can’t help but think it must have been destiny, I mean what are the chances?
“Soulmates” and “meant to be” on the other hand are a more difficult question. I can’t say that I completely believe in these things, but when you experience that pure comfort and ease with your parter, I can’t help but wonder if these things might exist.
Best,
Heini
Dear Heini
Thank you so much for sharing both your thoughts and your own love experience. When you speak of “pure comfort and ease with your partner”, I find myself thinking, “How wonderful!”… no matter the answer to this debate!
Regards
Vivian
Dear Vivian,
That is a very interesting topic with no conclusive answer, I guess…
With my partner, we feel both of us that some kind of destiny brought us together. We feel like soulmates, like we now each other from ever… And as Heini commented above, we also experience this comfort and ease in our everyday life together.
From the other hand, my common logic can’t help but think that some kind of luck, our choices, and the right timing brought us together… Maybe it is a combination of destiny and personal choices that can lead you meet your significant other.
Best,
Andriani
Dear Vivian,
Thank you for this interesting topic!
I think there is a destiny that may connect one with his/her partner. The right person appears at the right time, it takes huge luck, or we may call it destiny for it to happen.Those who are not destined to be together, will eventually stray apart even when they meet.
This is also the mystery and beauty of life: you cannot really predict who is going to be the one until fate brings him/her to you.
Best regards,
Phoenix
Dear Phoenix
Thank you so much for your comment, especially as you were the person who first told me about the “red thread”. It’s you who inspired this post! 🙂 I love how you speak of “the mystery of life”… indeed, this is such a positive way to look at any uncertainty in our lives.
Best wishes
Vivian
Dear Vivian, thank you for this Chinese proverb!
It inspires a thought process. Similarly, I believe in the combination of fate and actions that we take each day. Life is unexpected, full of surprises, capable of bringing many odds together :)! What is meant to be it will be, however we are capable of change, creating our own destiny. Imagine we have found our soul mate, take it for granted and led every day slip by. Soon that person will not be feeling special anymore and one would have lost the sparkle. Certainly, we should take care of this precious thread so that it stays strong when goes through fire, droughts and the storms of life!
My Warmest Regards,
Mirena
Dear Mirena
Thank you for this inspiring insight! I love this idea of “keeping the thread strong”; expressing gratitude and appreciation for the blessings that life/destiny brings your way and taking actions to nurture the thread. Indeed, it’s not just about what destiny brings you, but what you do with that. A simple example comes to mind: even if you’re “destined” to win the lottery, it won’t happen if you don’t buy the ticket and after winning you’d need to still use the money wisely…
Many thanks for your contribution, and I so look forward to hearing your thoughts on our next debate.
With love
Vivian