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What are your 10 best qualities?

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“I’m fat.” “I’m too skinny.” “I’d be happy if I were taller, shorter, had curly hair, straight hair, a smaller nose, bigger muscles, longer legs, a flatter stomach…” “I am not as kind as I wish. I have hurt people I love.”

Do any of these sound familiar? Are you used to putting yourself down? If so, you’re not alone. Many of us tend to be self-critical, making statements about ourselves that make us feel worse and blind us to our many positive qualities. Our strengths can become even harder to acknowledge when we are going through a difficult phase.

One way to learn to see yourself in a more balanced manner is to make a list of your positive qualities. Think of all the things you like about yourself. Are you smart? Kind? Creative? Loyal? Funny? What would others say are your good qualities? Include any talents, skills, and achievements.

So, go ahead and list 10 of your most positive qualities:

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Now, have a little think: Was it easy or difficult to name your good qualities? What made it easy or difficult? Are you surprised in any way? Are your qualities mainly about your appearance or about your personality? What does that say about your perception of yourself? Are you comfortable sharing your good qualities with others or are you afraid of being perceived as arrogant?

I hope this exercise gives you food for thought. I would love to hear your reflections or answers to some of the questions raised. Please leave a comment below.

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Quote of the week: “You have to choose whether to love yourself or not” (James Taylor)

© Vivian Chiona


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