How to Cope with Panic Attacks
All of a sudden, your heart starts pounding, your breathing becomes faster and shallower – as if you are running out of air – and your palms are sweaty. You may be shaking or you feel a tingling or numbness. The world around you may be spinning. You can’t think straight and you can’t control your body. You’re scared and you may be convinced you’re dying or going crazy…
Panic attacks can happen to anyone. Described as a rush of overwhelming anxiety, these attacks are so intense that sufferers experience many of the strong physical sensations mentioned above. An attack can also leave us feeling, amongst others:
- paralysed or immobile
- in pain
- out of breath
Some expats, who face all kinds of stressors while adjusting to a new culture, have found themselves experiencing an attack for the first time while abroad. Being in a place that is unfamiliar or feeling alone and isolated can increase anxiety and make some expats more prone to feeling panicky.
What are you afraid of?
A panic attack can be caused by a single stressor or by multiple stressors, though often there is no clear reason. Panic can also sneak up on us without warning and can even occur when we are relaxed or sleeping.
Attacks are often sparked by intense fears that arise in the mind. In other words, the panic doesn’t reflect any immediate danger – though the fear is experienced as very real and immediate.
In some cases, fear of having another attack creates a cycle of anxiety and a panic disorder, where these debilitating symptoms re-occur.
Aside from the disabling feelings and sensations experienced during a panic attack, the fear can lead us to become withdrawn and to experience social phobias or depression. We may also find ourselves avoiding situations or places we associate with previous panic attacks.
So what can you do?
Fortunately there are several steps you can take to empower yourself.
- Visit your doctor to exclude any medical condition for your symptoms. Something can be considered psychological (or psychosomatic) only after you are sure there is nothing wrong with your physical state.
- What you tell yourself during the attack matters…
When you are experiencing a panic attack, it’s quite common to start catastrophising! But replacing a dysfunctional thought with a more functional one will help you enormously during the attack. For example, a typical thought if you’re struggling to breathe is, “I’m having a heart attack!”
A more functional thought could be: “I’ve been to the doctor and done the necessary check-ups. I’ve had this before and I was fine. My brain sends me these signals as it responds to a supposed threat. It will soon be over.”This is a simplistic example of a skill that is worth learning. It’s recommended that you learn the specific techniques in counselling so you do it right and in a safe environment.
- Remember this…
In 20 minutes or less it will be over! Although even one minute of a panic attack feels like a century, try to remind yourself that your panic won’t last for long. This will help you to calm down, knowing that every minute that passes brings you closer to the end of the attack. If you’ve had an attack before, you can also reassure yourself that this has happened before – and you made it through.
- Take charge of your stress
Stress management is a topic of its own and it’s advisable to work with a counsellor to create a step-by-step plan that works for you. Each person’s situation is different but here are some general examples of easy but effective ways to reduce stress: listen to soothing music, try yoga or tai chi, or build up a regular meditation practice. Take lunch breaks and take holidays too. Be sure also to stop stimulants like caffeine and alcohol – this is an important part of any stress management plan.
- If you can control your breathing, you can control your mind!
Control and focus on your breathing by using simple techniques to calm your body. Inhale and exhale deeply. Put your hands on your belly or stomach and focus on how the fingers go up and down when you breathe – this helps with shifting the focus away from your panic. (You may like to start with this video meditation.)
It’s best to practise breathing exercises or meditation regularly so your body ‘remembers’ what to do in times of a panic attack. Your body has a memory and a wisdom… Again, this is something you can develop further in counselling.
- Remember to stay present
Remind yourself that you are safe and okay in this very moment – this will help you feel a bit calmer.
- Out of sight doesn’t mean out of mind
Avoiding the places or conditions that caused a panic attack may give you some sense of relief but it won’t solve the problem. In the long-term, avoidance behaviours make the issue worse.
- It doesn’t have to be this way!
I repeat: you don’t have to feel this way! You may feel afraid to reach out or think you can battle it alone, but there are excellent professionals out there who can support you to overcome your panic attacks. If you are ready to take the next step, we are here to help. With time, self-care and the right kind of support, you can overcome your panic attacks.
- Add your own tip
We each experience panic attacks differently. What techniques have helped you? Feel free to add your own tip in the comments below.
It’s quite natural to feel some anxiety if you’ve been through (or are going through) many changes in your life. However, if your panic attacks are affecting your day-to-day life, if you find yourself avoiding people and places in case you have an attack, it’s important to reach out…
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I just shared this article with a very good friend of mine who had a panic attack only two days ago and thought that he had a heart condition instead.
Ad he described, the symptoms can be so real that you think your life is in immediate danger and that worsens even more the situation.
One by one all the tips are really useful. It need lots of strength and reminders to put the added pressure of a panick attack down.
However one of the tips I find the most useful: remember to stay present ðŸ™‚
Thank you so much for your comment and sharing this article with your friend. Glad to hear that it has been of value and that he felt relieved by applying the steps mentioned in this article (of course to highlight that this is when we talk about a panic attack only and not other medical conditions as heart attack etc; this article does not replace the advice of a doctor which is highly recommended for your friend to visit so to be sure that there is not a medical condition going on).
That’s why we create this content, so to help as many as possible feel happier and more relaxed.
If your friend needs some further individualized support, we can help. He is more than welcome to email us at email@example.com for a free 15-min call .
Best wishes and once again thanks
About three years ago I was faced with panic attacks. The first time it happened was in a coffee shop where my friends and I used to go out as students. This first time was scary. I quickly ran out of the shop so I could breathe. I remember not going to this coffee shop for a while. After a few months and a few more panic attacks, I decided to go to the same shop again. After a while I started to feel the same feeling. Cold sweat, not enough air to breathe etc. So, I observed my breathing for a while, as if trying to control it, I looked and rubbed my hands and focused my thought on something very specific, I was looking at a glass of water in front of me. Since then, I have not experienced a panic attack again. The steps described in this article are very important for empowering ourselves in those situations and I will keep them in mind in any case.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience on how you dealt with panic attacks with us.
Many people read this blog and the comments and I am sure they will learn from your experience.
We all have our own coping strategies, and it’s important to learn the skill to discover and apply them when we need them.
Glad you found the article valuable.